People don’t listen to me. I talk and they nod like they are listening and then they go and do as they damn well please! Like I hadn’t spoken at all! I believe in doing your own thing and being your own person but when I’m paying for something I’d like them to LISTEN!
I just got home from the grocery store and I’m still a little annoyed. Safeway sells wonderful collapsible square bags that are actually boxes that stand on their own, can handle a lot of weight and are easy to carry – I have many of them. So when I got to the cashier, I placed the box in front of my groceries and moved down to the other side where she was packing the box. She put in a six pack of canned flavoured water and I said….
“Just leave both six packs and the jugs of Cranberry Juice out of the bag. I won’t be able to lift it if there’s too much weight.”
Her: I was going to put all the light items in a plastic bag and the heavy stuff in the box.”
Me: I don’t want a plastic bag. Just leave the heavy items unbagged and I’ll hand-bomb them into the car.”
She put a six pack of the flavoured water in the box. I reached in and took it out and put it loose in the cart. She scans in the second six pack and puts it in the box! I take it out and put it beside the other six pack in the cart and said….
“Don’t put the Cranberry Juice in the box. I would like it loose and unbagged, please.”
She scans in some cereal and the fresh produce and deposits them in the box. Then she scans the Cranberry Juice and puts it in the box!!! What. The. Fuck?! She pretends I’m not even there!
I just gave up at that point. I paid for my damned groceries, muttered all the way out to the car and came home. If that was the only example I wouldn’t have much to complain about, but it’s not the only one.
About 6 weeks ago I went to the dentist and it was a total shit show and the ultimate end product was an incredibly painful TMJ issue. I went back to the dentist, he took an x-ray and said my TMJ was just fine. So I went to a physiotherapy clinic and they recommended I see Anne, the Traditional Chinese Massage Expert. I told her what the issue was: the entire right side of my face is killing me and the pain shoots up from my neck, through my jaw, up through my temple and across my forehead. I explained that the dentist said it wasn’t TMD so it must be from the huge lump on the back of my neck.
Her: Your face hurting but problem isn’t face. Your face like computer screen that not working. You think the problem is screen but it not screen. It hard drive or software.
Her: Lay down face up. Show me where the pain is.
Me (laying down, face up, waving my hand all around the right side of my head): Everywhere but mostly in my jaw and temple.
Her (poking my jaw): Here?
Me: OMG!!! Yes! That fucking hurts!
Her: Ah! You see? Like radio. You hear radio but radio not here. Is over there. You have to follow wiring.
She carried on talking about computers and radios and cars and other shit I wasn’t listening too. I wasn’t listening to her because 1). She’s using her hands to point at the invisible computers/radios/cars, and 2). I can hear the ticking of the clock and every tick is another minute I’m paying for while Vanna White is NOT fixing my problem!
The next appointment I said my face was feeling well enough for me to feel the lump on the back of my neck stabbing into my brain. She shook her head at me and said….”Not neck. You feel pain in neck but neck is not problem. Your neck like computer screen that not working. Not screen problem. Software problem. Blah. Blah. Blah. Blah. Blah.”
And she tortured my face some more.
Next appointment – my face is still hurting and now I can’t even touch it because she’s bruised every muscle on my entire head! AND my neck is really hurting from the big lump. I take her hand and push her finger on the lump. Right there!
She smiles and nods. “Lay down face up. Neck not problem. Like radio. You hear radio here…….” Blah, blah, blah, blah BLAH! And she tortured my face in between her Vanna White impressions. I go for 4 appointments with her not listening to me. She would torture my face for a little bit, but then she decided to torture my left leg because I have nerve damage and walk with a limp! What. The. Fuck?! That’s the furthest place from my neck that she could possibly be and I’m almost certain my damned leg isn’t making my face/head/neck hurt!!
Two can play at this game, you know!!
The next appointment I said my face feels wonderful! No pain. It’s very good now. She showed me a demonstration of how my jaw joint works. She asked where the pain is and I said….”I have a terrible headache. It is the back of my head all the way over my skull to my forehead.
She smiles and nods. “Lay down face up. Forehead not the problem. Forehead like computer screen. You think forehead is problem but it not the problem. No. You have hardware or software problem.”
And she finally worked on my neck like I wanted in the first place!! Gawd!!
And then there’s The Damned Viking! He only listens to the first 3 words in my sentence, decides what I’m about to say and then starts hollering, like he’s a fucking Clairvoyant! I stop talking and make the universal sign of WTF by turning my palms face up in front of me with a confused face.
Me: So, I was thinking that I should get……
The Viking: WE CAN’T AFFORD ANYTHING RIGHT NOW!! DON’T YOU UNDERSTAND THAT WE NEED TO SAVE A LITTLE MONEY?
Me: I was thinking that I should get busy doing the…..
The Viking: DON’T YOU HAVE ENOUGH THINGS TO DO THAT YOU DON’T HAVE TIME FOR WITHOUT DOING MORE THINGS?!
Me (sighing heavily): I was thinking that I should get busy doing the laundry. Your dirty clothes corner is almost touching the ceiling.
The Viking: I’m almost out of underwear.
And then there are the cats. They don’t fucking listen either, unless I’m shaking the treat container and then they are listening so hard I’m tripping on them.
I don’t think I’m asking too much for people to fucking listen when I’m talking! I’m becoming more and more convinced all the time that cranky old people are only cranky because no one would fucking listen to them and they’ve had enough!
I don’t need my cane to walk anymore but I’m thinking of taking it with me anyway, just so I can poke those non-listening fuckers! And maybe I’ll sharpen the end into a point. A nice sharp point.